We always need to be aware of our motivation. Much as we might wish, self motivation doesn’t just happen; we have to constantly be working on it. One way to always stay aware of your self motivation is with the model for self motivation. You can learn all about the model in my new book, iMotivateMe.
The model teaches us that our social environment, the people and organizations that surround us and are available to us, impact how motivated we are to do the work we need to do to achieve our goals and make our dreams come true.
An important aspect of our social environment are mentors and role models.
A role model is a person who serves as an example to you of one of more positive behaviors; you emulate the positive behaviors of this person. This person can be in your life, in the media, or even in fiction. Even if the role model is a real person you and the role model may not even know each other.
Wayne Dyer is my role model. He and I don’t know each other, but there are characteristics I see in him that I want to emulate. He is an excellent speaker. He is able to express his ideas in a way people can understand easily. He has great ideas that are helpful to his listeners and readers. I want to emulate these behaviors as I believe they are behaviors that I will have as I manifest my vision of becoming a professional speaker, helping people achieve their dreams.
Practice acting out those positive behaviors and attributes that made you choose this person as your role model. And always strive to be a role model to others.
A mentor is different than a role model. A mentor is an experienced and trusted guide and counselor for you. Rather than just serving as an example for you like the role model does, the mentor actually guides you. He or she actively supports and encourages you. You have a personal relationship with this person.
I don’t know Wayne Dyer, so he is not my mentor. He doesn’t give me guidance and encouragement, except through his books. I used to have a mentor, in Toastmasters, Elaine Thornburg. She would talk to me about my speeches, and encouraged me to take leadership positions in Toastmasters.
Have you ever had a mentor? It doesn’t need to be a formal appointment; it can be ad hoc.
Sometimes a person will just appear, “When the student is ready, the teacher will appear.“ But, if not, it is perfectly appropriate for you to seek a mentor. Consider a former professor, a former boss or maybe even people in your family. Think about the people in any group you belong to that is helping you make your dream come true. Maybe there is someone there who would be willing to be a mentor for you, to have this one on one personal relationship with you. If you have not joined any such organizations, why not, right now, take this first important step in making your social environment help your motivation grow by identifying and joining one.
Having a mentor or a role model as part of your social environment is a very powerful way for you to positively impact your motivation.
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