What if someone is not motivated to get motivated?
One question I am occasionally asked is “What happens if someone’s not motivated to get motivated?”
Often the one asking the question is just giving me a hard time, but it’s still a good question.
My former answer was if someone does not want to be motivated, there’s not much I can do for them. They aren’t going to buy my book. They aren’t going to read my blogs, and they won’t come to one of my workshops.
But the more I thought about it, I realized that the question never is, “What if I am not motivated to become motivated?” The question is always asked about someone else who doesn’t want to be motivated. It’s never the one who is asking the question who doesn’t want to be motivated. So I have revised my response.
I believe most of us do have some special dream, and we do want it to come true. And to make it come true, we need to be motivated to do the work making it come true requires.
So I think it’s rare that someone doesn’t want to be motivated to do the work making their dream come true requires.
I also think it’s all too easy to judge other people and say they are lazy and don’t have any motivation and don’t want to be motivated. But the problem isn’t laziness, the problem is that people get stuck. They get stuck because they feel helpless. They don’t feel motivated and they think there is nothing they can do about it.
What the model for self motivation teaches us is that if you are confident about your confidence, you will be motivated, but if you feel helpless you will be unmotivated. So it’s not surprising that someone who feels they have no control over their motivation will be unmotivated.
But once that person finds out they do have control over their motivation, that all they have to do is learn the skill of self motivation, their motivation will automatically increase.
People are buying the book iMotivateMe: Take Control of Your Motivation to Reach Your Goals and Achieve Your Dreams for other people. I think it’s wonderful.
No, there’s no guarantee that other person will read the book, but maybe, just maybe, it will be the gentle push that gets them to realize this amazing power they have, this power to motivate themselves that will help them make their dream come true.
Is there someone you know who can use a gentle push?
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